Monday, January 7, 2013

a goodbye to 2012

This is one of those obligatory year-end posts. But really, this is just to gush out some of the things I've realized and the things I will soon let go of.

Many of us have tried to let go, of a feeling, a person, a job or even a toy; but we will always have a hard time forgetting the things that used to be. I remember having a friend from Coca-Cola telling me that a job is just a job that pays, its just something you do to earn money. Really, it is. Through the number of jobs that I had, I always thought that I have to work because I studied years for it. But ultimately, a job is just something you do to make money or to nurture your career.

That was what I thought, but then.... 

This was a post that my former boss made through Facebook. Me together with her and two of or our art guys resigned from our jobs.

So last year, I quit my job of about 6years, got my "fairytale wedding" after just 3 years, and realized that I was pretty good at being a housewife... and if there's one thing I learned in 2012 (aside from learning that drinking water in between drinks helps you NOT get drunk... but drinking too much does get you sick), it's that there is ALWAYS something new to learn, about yourself, your partner, the life you're used to. And that you CAN actually UN-learn things too, which more often than not is much harder to do. You can un-learn to be complacent and learn to be brave despite the odds, despite the fear of the unknown... and despite not having a back-up job after quitting the one you've known and loved. You learn your worth, even after 6 years, you learn that appreciation really is worth more than income. And you learn how nurturing friendships is more important than nurturing just your career. And you learn that real love type loves really are things you work on, even if it means crying on New Year's just to tell your partner that you are both in this together, because there's no better time than now to always assure and reassure and you un-learn not to be so defensive or offensive and learn that some "discussions" only require you to shut-up and give a hug as a response... and you win, because hugs always win. And you learn that being "independent" is more than just being domesticated and being on your own. It's sharing your life, your time with those you've let inside your heart and learning that "joy shared really is joy multiplied." And you learn that there is always hope... because the RH Bill is now a law and I am so happy that women now have this opportunity to learn more about themselves, to learn their worth, and to hopefully learn more, to hunger for more learning, to feed the mind and soul, and not simply the 12mouths you have to take care of.
 
 So yeah, if we are looking into measuring life through a job I know I'm a big failure but if we are measuring it through how I live it then maybe for once, I am doing something right. Maybe my heart is full of love and happiness that people bring me or fulfilled with all the things I do.

Yes, there are things that are more important than just having a career or a stable job. Now that I had opened a can of worms, now I ask myself, So why am I so stressed about this? 

Friday, January 4, 2013

South of the Border, West of the Sun

“Sometimes when I look at you, I feel I'm gazing at a distant star.
It's dazzling, but the light is from tens of thousands of years ago.
Maybe the star doesn't even exist any more. Yet sometimes that light seems more real to me than anything.” 

         -Haruki Murakami, South of the Border, West of the Sun